How come I can't stay sober?

Being present is what we addicts escape from. 🥂

Because the daily struggles of life sober seems do-able. Or at least not life threatening so it’s entirely possible. But it requires presence. It requires a structure because even if you are a free spirit who couldn’t care about taxes or insurance or the latest trending chemical peel, you have to be present enough to know when to eat, sleep, bath, etc… you have to be present enough to judge the car coming down the road. Do you have enough tie to walk across? Well it seems trivial but at the end of each day these are the things that our body feels when we get into bed.

it’s tiring being present.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

Yes the life an addict can be very difficult too but any robot or zombie can do the task.

the robot and zombi don’t even bother to think about the task again. We are just the average human and we will think about it and talk about it and try improve it and it is all so fucking draining.

How come I can't stay sober?

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